Thanks to all who attended Sex in the Dark in October! Here are some additional questions you asked our (s)experts:
Q: Is using a condom as the only form of contraception safe? If I have lots of practice pulling out, is it okay to not use a condom?
A: Condoms can be used either as the only form of contraception, or in addition to another method of contraception. Pulling out doesn’t protect against STIs, and increases the chances of an unplanned pregnancy. Using condoms with another form of birth control (like the pill, IUD, or shot) is a great way to get extra pregnancy prevention AND protection against STIs.
Q: Should you put a condom on a dildo?
A: When using toys with a partner, it’s best to share with care and use caution. Know the STI status of your partner. Whether you’re using toys anally or vaginally, cover them with a new condom each time a new person uses it. Additionally, it’s a good idea to replace the condom if you take it out of one part and put it in another (anus/vagina), to avoid the transfer of bacteria.
Q: When is it age appropriate to lose my virginity? Any tips for having sex for the first time?
A: There’s no “right” age at which to have sex for the first time – it’s a personal decision. When you lose your virginity isn’t as important as making sure you and your partner are ready for sex. Everyone’s first time is different, but when having sex for the first time, talk with your partner beforehand. Determine what you want to try, what you definitely don’t want to try, and what protection method(s) you’d like to use. When you start, going slowly and making sure you’re relaxed are important. Nobody should have sex that feels uncomfortable or painful. Trying different positions, going slower, or asking your partner for what you need or want in the moment are important ways to ensure sex is comfortable and enjoyable. If something really hurts – stop the activity, and if the pain doesn’t go away or happens every time you have sex, make an appointment with Health Services.